Two weeks ago I got married to the geeky girl of my dreams. Josh Buergel friend, game designer, and all around great guy officiated our small ceremony at a local coffee shop. I got a real kick out of what he had to say, and I hope you will too.
I’m not planning on doing a long speech, but I do think that a momentous occasion like this richly deserves some of my unique strain of blather and I’m afraid the cost of my participation here is that you have to sit through it. I feel like a recitation about the benefits and difficulties of marriage is at least somewhat inappropriate, but at the same time, it’s worth reflecting on what brings you both here, in front of friends and perhaps more importantly baristas. A marriage really is a different phase of your relationship and no matter how casual the ceremony, the commitment is never a casual one. A marriage is about mutual respect, first and foremost. Without that, eventually the cracks will come. If you maintain that respect, you can solve everything else. You’ll both make mistakes and triumphs, you’ll both have bad days and great days, you’ll have days when you wondered what the hell you were thinking. But none of that matters if you keep your respect for each other and yourselves. All of the great things of a marriage flow from that respect when combined with your love.
But enough of that! Congratulations on levelling up your relationship! Among the benefits you have gained this level are the following powers:
